Navigating Burnout: A Guide for Eldest Daughters of Immigrants
Before we dive into understanding what burnout is, we must recognize that we are composed of many different parts of us. Parts that have different patterns of behaviors, carry different trauma memories, possess different feelings.
Being in a state of burnout means that we are in a perpetual state of overwhelm and exhaustion. But you knew that already, right?
When it comes to burnout, certain parts of us may play an important role in contributing or exacerbating our feelings of exhaustion. They are often times the group of parts that are called our inner critics. Here are some examples of them:
Perfectionist: Sets unattainably high standards and criticizes you for any perceived flaws or mistakes, leading to feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.
Molder: Seeks to control your behavior and thoughts, imposing rigid rules and expectations, often using fear or shame to maintain control.
Guilt-Tripper: Uses guilt and shame to keep you in line, reminding you of past mistakes or failures, and making you feel unworthy of happiness or success.
Underminer: Undermines your confidence and self-esteem by highlighting your flaws and weaknesses, often using sarcasm or belittling remarks.
Taskmaster: Criticizes you for not being productive enough or achieving your goals quickly enough, pushing you to work harder and faster at the expense of your well-being.
Controller: Seeks to control your thoughts and actions, imposing strict rules and expectations, making it difficult to relax or let go of control.
Destroyer: Attacks your sense of worthiness and identity, using extreme language and self-criticism, leading to feelings of self-hatred and hopelessness.
How can we recover from burnout and cultivate inner balance?
1) Recognizing that we have these inner critics that carry heavy burdens. Acknowledging and recognizing their presence.
2) Embracing self compassion and curiosity towards these inner critics
3) Connecting with your Higher Self— Your Higher Self has clarity about how to get out of burnout.
4) Cultivating awareness about your core values
5) Seek support- reach out to friends, trusted family and professionals for support. You don’t have to navigate this alone.
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